Recovery Words of Wisdom

Reflection by NCCA Member, Sr. Pat Underwood, CSJ -Adapted from an article by John MacDougall

GH14Part of Recovery is reversing the beliefs and attitudes we held

while actively addicted to something or someone.

When we are using,

it’s natural to love things and use people;

Our primary relationships are with things/objects.

They become our true love.

As our spirits become impoverished,

            we look for the trappings of success

                        to prove that we are alright.

This belief in things has a lot of support from our culture.

No amount of money or property, etc., is ever enough,

            because we are expecting objects/things outside ourselves

                        to meet needs they cannot touch.

In recovery,

            we gradually shift from loving things and using people

                        into loving people and using things.

Our relationships become more important

            than our possessions. Possessions are still useful:

·        It’s nicer to drive a car on a cold day

o   than to wait for a bus.

·        Money can be really useful for curing poverty

Beyond covering our basic needs, other things worth spending money on, involve freedom:

·        Freedom to change jobs,

·        Freedom to go back to school

·        Freedom to move,

·        Freedom to treat addiction

After that, most of what we really want comes from people, not things.

The inescapable fact of life is, the more you get,

            The more you have.

The more you give away in love, friendship,

            Service, hope and work,

                        The more you are. 

As we invest less in acquiring things,

            And more in the quest for relationships,

                        Our spirituality lifts.

We increasingly get our joy from our relationships

            With our Higher Power, ourselves, and other people.

Normal human development may bring wisdom with age.

When we are old, we reach a time when our memories

            are more important to us than plans.

When that time comes,

            it is not our memories of things that will matter,

                        it is our memories of relationships.

No one ever said on his/her deathbed:

            “Gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office.”

Normal human development may bring wisdom with age,

            But being active in our addictions

                        blocks our development and prevents wisdom.

Many of us begin recovery with the beliefs of spoiled teenagers.

We can speed up our human development

            and move toward wisdom by using the tools of the program:

                        A Higher Power, a sponsor, a peer group and the 12 Steps.

By taking these Steps and practicing these principles in all our affairs,

            We move into a life of love and service.