Reflection by NCCA Member, Sr. Pat Underwood, CSJ -Adapted from an article by John MacDougall
while actively addicted to something or someone.
When we are using,
it’s natural to love things and use people;
Our primary relationships are with things/objects.
They become our true love.
As our spirits become impoverished,
we look for the trappings of success
to prove that we are alright.
This belief in things has a lot of support from our culture.
No amount of money or property, etc., is ever enough,
because we are expecting objects/things outside ourselves
to meet needs they cannot touch.
we gradually shift from loving things and using people
into loving people and using things.
Our relationships become more important
than our possessions. Possessions are still useful:
· It’s nicer to drive a car on a cold day
o than to wait for a bus.
· Money can be really useful for curing poverty
Beyond covering our basic needs, other things worth spending money on, involve freedom:
· Freedom to change jobs,
· Freedom to go back to school
· Freedom to move,
· Freedom to treat addiction
After that, most of what we really want comes from people, not things.
The inescapable fact of life is, the more you get,
The more you have.
The more you give away in love, friendship,
Service, hope and work,
The more you are.
As we invest less in acquiring things,
And more in the quest for relationships,
Our spirituality lifts.
We increasingly get our joy from our relationships
With our Higher Power, ourselves, and other people.
Normal human development may bring wisdom with age.
When we are old, we reach a time when our memories
are more important to us than plans.
When that time comes,
it is not our memories of things that will matter,
it is our memories of relationships.
No one ever said on his/her deathbed:
“Gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office.”
Normal human development may bring wisdom with age,
But being active in our addictions
blocks our development and prevents wisdom.
Many of us begin recovery with the beliefs of spoiled teenagers.
We can speed up our human development
and move toward wisdom by using the tools of the program:
A Higher Power, a sponsor, a peer group and the 12 Steps.
By taking these Steps and practicing these principles in all our affairs,
We move into a life of love and service.